Nuts about Sex

I posted this in a forum on one of the portals where guys were talking about "Why gay men are nuts about sex?"


A man is a man whether hetrosexual or homosexual. By nature man tends to explore, exploit and try new avenues, new opportunities more enthusiastically as compared to a woman. Call it naturalization over a period of centuries or blame it to genes. Coming back to the notion that homosexual men are more voluptuous than hetrosexual men, I consider that its not true. My belief is that a hetrosexual man is equally as voluptuous as a homosexual.


When a hetro man comes across a woman, he can not ask the woman for a sexual encounter on the very first time. By nature women are patient, not as voluptuous as men and they search for protection, love and care from men. Hence a hetro man needs to be more patient and thoughtful in his dealing with a woman. Though the equation is changing rapidly with the changing world. But when a homosexual man comes across another homosexual man, he doesnt need to be patient and win the trust of the man, since he is dealing with a man and not a woman. They both are men and can express their desires more explicitly to each other.


Humans want to feel protected, loved, desired and cared and lack of these feelings make us feel insecure. Hetrosexual man and woman can express these feelings publicly without thinking if others are are taking a note or not since it is socially accepted. They can hug, kiss and hold hands in public and make their partners feel comfortable and desired. A gay man also desires the same coz the feelings are the same but he cannot express in public. Most of the times a gay man doesn't want a sexual encounter at all. All he wants to feel another person, get close, sit together and be cosy. Lack of acceptance for expression of love and affection causes insecurity. Hetro man enjoys the acceptance hence he isn't insecure inside.


Second reason is the non-exceptance of homosexuality in society. Gays cannot meet and talk about homosexuality, relationships in a public forums. They cannot holds hands, feel the warmth or show their affection in public. A gay man cannot kiss his boy-friend on lips on his birthday party. A man kissing a man on lips is a social taboo. There are hundreds of such instances and day to day life compulsions. They are forced to go behind closed doors to express their feelings, pain, desires and affection. Absence of natural vents to emote and express oneself builds a strong urge inside and any meeting with a homosexual man brings an opportunity to vent out the strong urge to feel a man, his body which invariably ends into a sexual encounter.


Third is the lack of community feeling - homosexual men are split in small groups. There is a lack of wise, mentally mature men who have the drive to act as mentors. Who can act as community leaders and coming out with events and social get togethers. Here, I am not talking about the gay parties but social events: a weekend trip to a nearby location, trekking, creative forums which will build a community feeling and bring gays together. Events which are more than an instrument to know more new faces and one night stands. To make a way into the society, we will have to act as socially responsible individuals, there is no other way out for social acceptance.